tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514352312859447561.post4146233831879050865..comments2024-01-30T03:30:45.740-05:00Comments on Bad Data, Bad!: How old is old?bs kinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02871717971078952304noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514352312859447561.post-25815348666134172362013-05-03T23:46:25.674-04:002013-05-03T23:46:25.674-04:00AVI - by "that mode" I assume you mean t...AVI - by "that mode" I assume you mean the overly familiar use of the first name of elders. Yes. <br /><br />My girls run into this constantly. They were raised and are quite happy to address adults as Mr or Mrs. Then the adult tries to confuse the whole issue by insisting on an un-earned and un-requested familiarity. These are adults who don't really know my daughters (or vice versa) and who are dealing with them on a fairly formal and superficial level -- and they find it appropriate to force my daughters to call them by their first name even though the girls would clearly prefer not to.<br /><br />As far as I can tell, the motivation on the adults part is that they don't want to feel old. As if my kids don't have eyes. And as if they haven't themselves looked in the mirror lately. <br /><br />We coached them to acquiesce and not make a stink over it, but to let the adults have their way. The girls get it. It doesn't pay to argue with a crazy person. <br /><br />Not that this bothers me.Dubbahdeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00075702513873912334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514352312859447561.post-44525783538556628342013-05-02T15:52:17.185-04:002013-05-02T15:52:17.185-04:00Dave - agreed. Now. I encouraged that mode of ad...Dave - agreed. Now. I encouraged that mode of address when younger. Now I wish I had not. Not a big deal, but it's something.Assistant Village Idiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514352312859447561.post-23214199492133839042013-05-01T14:34:23.384-04:002013-05-01T14:34:23.384-04:00I have a friend who is north of 60, with white hai...I have a friend who is north of 60, with white hair and moustache. Solid fellow. I once called him "Mr.___________." He responded, "Don't call me Mr. _________. That's my dad."<br /><br />I have also had someone who is over 70 tell me the same thing. <br /><br />This attitude baffles me. I was 19 when a store clerk first called me "Sir" and I loved it. Still do. <br /><br />I'm mostly bald with a white beard. I turn 50 this year. I am Mr. Denis. Dubbahdeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00075702513873912334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514352312859447561.post-45692577647480301722013-05-01T14:13:28.135-04:002013-05-01T14:13:28.135-04:00A cousin of mine recently turned 70. She told me t...A cousin of mine recently turned 70. She told me that when she had turned 40,50, or 60, she didn't feel old, but she felt old upon turning 70. Old perhaps, but young enough to pinch hit in the family business recently when her son was sick.Gringonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514352312859447561.post-73742310805734119142013-04-30T21:38:11.053-04:002013-04-30T21:38:11.053-04:00The variables in my head were considerable. In pa...The variables in my head were considerable. In particular, I looked at the questions differently if they were my own children or just acquaintances. A half dozen sibling groups, including yours, were in between.<br /><br />I can also tell that my answers have changed over the last 20 years.Assistant Village Idiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.com